church pheasant hunting

7 12 2009

This past Thursday at 330 in the morning my FNL talked me into heading north of Pratt Kansas for my first pheasant hunting venture.  I’ve always longed to become more of a hunter but always had an excuse of finances, or lack of equipment, or just had another interest.  I can say I’ve been bit by the bug similar to triathlon 4 years ago.  I love the rush and the unpredictability of a bird leaping out of nowhere.  Everything in me as a man comes crying out of my heart as I enter into hunter mode.  When a man goes to hunt it’s almost like he goes to battle.  Why do so many flee to the fields, the mountains, or the ponds?  Well it allows us to pursue the adventure inside of everyone of us to roam free and go into pursuit, instead of the mundane activities of life that are so predictable.  The ticket to pheasant hunting is all about working together as a team and having a strategy so the birds don’t get away.

Similar to pheasant hunting our core team got together this past Saturday and proposed a strategy for the new year as we planned for 2010.  I’m beyond pumped up as we enter year 2 of The Well!  To be completely honest I will never forget year 1 and we actually still have 3 months left, but it’s been a roller coaster year and I’m ready to focus more and settle in a bit.  We have an incredibly talented and gifted team to lead the charge in almost all areas.  I truly feel like we have the right people on the right seats on the bus.  Here’s some things we tackled and some goals:

  • Strategically quitting our 9am volunteer gathering
  • Going all out with our elementary kids and creating WOW factors for parents.  If we truly love kids and think they are the most important people then we need to step up our game in a huge way!  We have a perception of being a younger church reaching just college students which is far from the truth.
  • Briefly mentioned doing a night venue in another location but will only consider if there’s enough people on board to make it worth while and a launch team is in place to steer the vision
  • Instead of building sidewalks and making people walk on them we have sat back and watched what paths people have walked and are now creating sidewalks on those within our Groups approach.  We will expand our home groups into larger families or communities in which much of the Acts 2 mentality will take place, as well as benevolence and pastoral care.  At the same time we will grow smaller by creating small bands of brothers and sisters for the heart of raw discipleship and deeper relationships that involve accountability on steroids
  • We are focusing heavily on 4 major community serving events through the year including Servolution Sunday and the free garage sale.  We will also host some 2nd Saturday events that will be much like mini- Servolution Sundays and will also offer ongoing serving opportunities for people to serve that best fits their schedule
  • We are thinking up creative ways to create more of a buzz in the community for The Well and I’m totally excited for some outside the box ways of getting our church out there more
  • I will personally be tag-teaming with one of our other elders to create 3-4 opportunities during the year to encourage more Wellers to get involved with Team Well and become a player on the team instead of just riding the bench as a spectator.  We want people to always feel like they can come and go, but for those that want to take ownership of The Well this is our way of getting people apart of the team
  • We are going to do more theme Sundays and be far more creative in creating a more attractive environment on Sundays as this is the time when most people will give to a church.  We are also expanding our teaching team and I will go from teaching over 45 times this past year to around 35 so I can focus on other areas that I feel gifted at

In a nutshell we will offer 3 different environments for different kinds of people, instead of creating all those environments into one.  In other words some people only feel comfortable coming to a Sunday larger gathering and be anonymous so we will continue to create the more attractive environment at the theater.  Others long for a more community and relational environment kind of like a large family.  So we will provide these different larger groups in homes around the community.  Still others want a deeper, more accountable relationship where they can ask more one on one questions and need a kick in the pants spiritually.  We will meet in smaller clusters or bands all over the community for men and women to meet in a more organic setting.

Which one should you get more involved in?  It all depends on where you are and your personality and your current journey.  Just pick at least one so you can be gathering with others and growing spiritually.  I am still a firm believer on not neglecting the larger gathering where this is more teaching and worship, but also believe in getting in the face of others and letting others challenge me spiritually.





sunday @ the well

7 12 2009

9am volunteer gathering farewell

After experimenting for a few months with an earlier gathering with more focus on volunteers, we decided to kick it to the curb.  Our core team met yesterday and it was a overwhelming decision to focus entirely on our 1030 gathering and free up more volunteers.  Although I truly loved this time with our core leaders I think we all would rather get an extra hour of sleep on a Sunday morning and go back to our huddle!

from pre-school to tweens

One of our focuses lately has been “strategic quitting”.  We realized our pre-school kids has not been nearly as good as it could be and that we can become far greater with elementary kids if we simplify and combine for now.  With that said, our preschool director is now steering toward more of her passion to pour into the tweens.  I had no idea that we have a growing population of pre-teenagers and their is a growing need for them.  I’m excited as we will begin offering a venue for them during the adult gathering with live worship and small group-like setting.

new faces

One thing about The Well gathering on Sunday mornings is seeing new faces.  I love that we are a church that is proud to not be hesitate on inviting friends to the theater.  It was an honor to meet new friends this morning and go to lunch with others.  I can’t express how excited I am as we near the end of the year and go into 2010.  We’ve had our set of challenges during our first year, but are moving forward and lives continue to be transformed as we continue on in our mission to serve one person at a time the authentic love of Christ.

the snowball effect

Mark our graphic designer did a great job creating this image of Dave Ramsey’s snow ball effect.  Click here for more information on tackling debt using this method that has helped so many.  One family within The Well used this in one year to pay off over $250,000!  Thank you Amy for reminding us that “God doesn’t enable the stupid, and many of us have been stupid!”.


Credit Card Cutting Ceremony

As soon as the challenge went out and the scissors were passed a friend of mine didn’t even wait for them to get near him.  He pulled out his wallet and immediately began bending until it tore and handed it to me saying, “My parents always told me to carry one in case of an emergency, but now I know I just need to keep some cash back in an emergency fund”.  Others were freed from the bondage of Mr. Discover and Miss Visa as they took as step against the addiction of spending money we don’t have.  Praise Christ that as people began getting more out of debt we can do more as a church!

This afternoon I once again met with a young couple drawing closer to their New Year’s Day Wedding.  The night ended with a trip back to the theater not for a church gathering, but a hot date with Amy as we watched a tear jerker “The Blind Side”.  Next week we will zero in on the subject of “tithing”.





“day after thanksgiving” traditions

2 12 2009

One of my favorite days during the holidays is actually the day after Thanksgiving.  It seems a little odd but it is the day of Christmas preparation.  Our family is heading down to see my side this year so I was a little hesitant on putting up the lights until I received the “You’re such a buhumbug” card from Amy.  Here’s 5 “day after Thanksgiving” traditions in our young family:

loading & unloading firewood

It is a joy to receive our utility bill during the winter as it is barely anything… all because of the corner wood stove!  The boys proved to be men as they couldn’t keep their paws off the trailer.  Cale (keep in mind) is still a 2 year old and dropped a log right on his big toe.  After a couple of manly tears and some blood shed the kid hopped back up like he was a warrior going into battle!  This pic reminds me of the 10lbs of weight I still need to lose, stinken deviled eggs from Thanksgiving are a killer!

 

creating the massive pile

The downside to living on the north side of the culdesac is everyone’s tree’s dump their leaves into our yard.  The upside is it makes for a massive pile of cheap playground equipment for my energetic boys.  Camden helped me rake over 25 piles of them and we created the huge pile in the backyard, all while being attacked by the black birds!

 

climbing neighbors trees

As we finished up raking, I hear the yelp from up high saying, “Daddy get me down!  One of the little monkeys got a little too high.  I could already see the little one eyeing is older brother wandering how he could fulfill such feats without snagging his diaper!

 

 

 

hanging the icycles & decorating the tree

After getting all the lights hung I ran out and had to grab a few more boxes of lights.  I was so proud to turn them on only to realize they were of a different color.  At first I thought Amy won’t notice, but nope she said, “We may live in a ghetto neighborhood, but we will not have ghetto lights!”  She did a great job on the tree!

 

falling asleep together

Perhaps the best part is last as a gummy little man curls up, downs his milk, and crashes in my arms.  It was 100% quality time with the family and a memorable “Day after Thanksgiving” once again.

So what are some of your traditions?  I’d rather commit to this yearly than standing in a long line doing into debt any day!





sunday @ the well

1 12 2009

It was an incredible morning at The Well despite the Thanksgiving / Black Friday weekend!  I was blown away that we had a crowd like we did and people chose to worship Christ other than another day of worship shopping… sorry couldn’t help but get that in.  I’ll keep it short and sweet this afternoon.  I thank Christ for all that he continues to do as we just hit our 9th month as a toddler church.  We continue to form together and a church family has truly formed.  I can’t hardly wait for 2010 to break through as we continue to impact this community and shred the perception people have of church as we know it!

rural compassion

It was such an honor to have one of my old Pastor’s come visit The Well as a guest speaker.  The vision of rural compassion is to partner alongside churches and pastors to help resource, train, and fight poverty.  I’m looking forward to a beautiful partnership as we work together to tackle some of these issues in Roger’s County.  Kent gave me a t-shirt with a list of some pretty hilarious rural towns on them…… one hit my heart – Bald Head, ME.

pre-marital counseling

This afternoon was spent with an incredible young couple about to tie the knot.  Since befriending about 5 guys that are currently struggling in their marriage, separated, or going through divorce…. I’ve become rather passionate about this issue.  Everything I can possibly think of to bring up to make sure this couple is as prepared as possible is coming out in raw form.  My favorite part is grabbing the guy for a couple of minutes and sharing the 1 thing I wish an older guy had shared with me before I said, “I do”.  It would have prevented some huge mistakes on my end and a lot less heartache on my wife’s.  Every time I mention it to a young groom to be responds with, “Wow no one has ever shared that and I’ve never heard that before – Thank you!”

volunteer appreciation night

The day ended hanging out at Pizza Time “passing the mic”.  I have always felt that more than certificates or awards, the words of appreciation and affirmation mean the world to volunteers.  We created a huge circle and unloaded words of love onto each other!  Everyone did leave with a sweet volunteer token as well.  Billy Burr who leads our production team was voted as Volunteer of the Year and rightly so!  Thank you to every single person that has ever volunteered at The Well we couldn’t possibly create the non-threatening authentic environment at the theater without you!  You matter so much to us!

Looking forward to this coming Sunday, as The Well first lady speaks on debt.  We are literally going to pass around scissors and have a “credit card cutting ceremony”.  Invite a friend it won’t be something you’ll forget.  Did you know the average American has 8 different credit cards in their wallet.  Who do you have?  Mr. Visa / Mrs. Mastercard / Miss Discover……. who’s in your wallet you need to cut up?





big day @ the well

26 11 2009

I’m looking forward to this coming Sunday!  When I was 20 years old I had a unique opportunity to be an interim Youth Pastor in Garden City, Kansas.  My pastor was Kent Anderson and he was the most relational Pastor I’ve ever been able to serve.  I still remember hanging out at his house and eating at Taco Bell on Wednesday afternoons with his family.  I’m praying that he doesn’t share the “fireworks” incident on Sunday!  It is going to be an honor having him as our guest and hear his heart for Rural Compassion which helps fight poverty in rural areas.

If you’ve ever volunteered within The Well I also invite you to Pizza Time Buffet at 6:30 for an appreciation night!  Free pizza, childcare, and a fun time of showering each other with love and affirmation will be on the menu!  I also want to give everyone a Happy Thanksgiving shout out this afternoon and pray your holidays are safe and enjoyable.  I’m thankful for God’s calling on my life, my marriage, my healthy boys, and a church family that has become a life-line.  What are you thankful for?





sunday @ the well

23 11 2009

despite no shows & light trees

At times I think we can lose focus on what really matters and we can get focused on “the show” and “us” rather than “the presence” and “Him”.   Our drummer decided to sleep in and one of our light trees decided to blow a fuse.  I give our band some props for making adjustments and not allowing it to be about our performance, but about inviting our creator to drench us in love and us to give him praise!

friends from afar

I was honored and humbled that one of our Youth Leaders from Ft. Worth came up, more importantly a close friend, to share some time with us.  It was over 2 years ago that he made the trip up and I still remember sharing my heart and vision with Him about something God was calling me too.  I had no idea then that it was the inner stirrings of a different kind of church called The Well.

upfront birthday cake

I’m not sure I can ever remember being in a church gathering in which a Pastor had the birthday song sang to Him and birthday cake with candles!  This blew me away and made me feel absolutely loved and made me forget about the grey hairs blossoming in my beard.  I know the Bible talks about grey hair representing wisdom….. surely it didn’t just mean on top of the head!  Thank you to all of you that made this day so special to me, for all the cards, texts, and face book messages!

uncle benji

The sticky factor of the morning message was holding a $100 bill in the air and talking about sticking to a budget, getting out of debt, saving money, acting our wage, and using cash instead of credit cards.  How many of us when we get a “Benji” want to spend it?  No way we keep it and he becomes part of your wallet or purse.  It’s amazing how much less we’ll spend to keep from breaking his feelings vs. throwing out a visa without a thought.  You can go to the link: http://thewellchurch.tv/budget-resources and get some valuable forms to download if you are looking to get help financially.

band of bros

One of my favorite times of the day continues to be the early morning set up time with a band of brothers.  We make fun of each other, laugh, and it’s like we are preparing for battle together.  We are setting the environment for others to experience an authentic love what an honor!  I refuse to be the Pastor that is like the general up on the hill commanding the charge while soldiers go to battle.  I’d rather be like Mel Gibson in Brave heart leading the way with a sword!  God’s called me to be on the forefront how bout you?

not requests but thanks

Upon our last song instead of immediately going to requests for prayer we decided to take a few moments and speak out thanksgiving.  I loved all the variety of what our core team was thankful for.  Some things mentioned were: community, family, provision, and others.

welts & wings

It was an extremely busy Sunday but usually they are and I love them.  A group of guys took the field and inserted welts on each other from paintballs.  One of my favorite past times is a tradition called “running the gauntlet”.  The evening was spent watching a bunch of grown men with tats and beards become junior high boys and forget the stress of life.  One of our guys took the “homicide challenge” at Wings to Go.  His tears said it all it has to go down as one of the most humorous Well moments.  I’ve never seen so many men humbled by the pain in their mouth as what the homicide sauce called.  My tongue still hurts this morning.

rural compassion missionary

Looking forward to next week as one of our supported missionaries comes to share his heart and vision for rural compassion.  This is an incredible cause that helps those in rural areas dealing with poverty.  I’m looking forward to seeing one of my former Pastors and friends.  You don’t want to miss hearing about this!





sunday @ the well

17 11 2009

photo-14theater foot washing

I love watching families come together and define servanthood.  As I pulled up to the theater I was beat by one of our core families.  They arrived early with trash bags and made the parking lot look better for our guests.  In so many ways it is like we “washed the feet” of our local movie theater.  Thank Christ for these precious hearts!

 

benchguests ready to play

One of the best statements any Pastor likes to hear on a Sunday is the following, “Hi this is our first time hear and we want to serve.”  I’ve grown to realize people need to time to build relationships and settle in to really see if this is where they want to commit long-term before putting them into volunteer positions.  But… need-less-to-say enjoyed hearing Christ-followers say that they would rather play then ride the pine!

 

handit’s all God’s

The message reminded us all everything we have is God’s.  He wants to bless us but isn’t going to give us anything if we don’t steward it in a healthy way.  As long as we live open handed he can pour our, and if we keep it open by giving away he’ll keep pouring.  The moment we close our hands it starts leaking through the cracks and he’s unable to pour into anything else.  I love investing in eternal purposes!

 

photo-16beards of brotherhood

We are going into the new year with a whole new approach to groups, discipleship, and relationships within The Well.  There is already some small bands hooking up during the week to lay a foundation for this and I’ve not been this excited since day one.  It is going to revolutionize our whole approach to getting people connected into authentic community.  As a sign of bonding a handful of the guys are going “no shave November” and yes I’ve accepted.  My 2 year old is loving pulling on this beard!

 

claremoremissionary to claremore

After almost a year of dreaming and several months of praying and seeking counsel, I announced yesterday that I’m going full-blown missionary to our community.  My role, with the help of our leaders, will change to a more “missional approach”.  Most of my time will be spent building relationships with men that want to be on pursuit of God.  At the end of November I am pulling the plug on a salary from the church and relying on outside support.  If you are interested in being apart in supporting us as missionaries I would love to speak with you or send you more information!  Email me at rvanpay@thewellchurch.tv.  This will also allow us as a church to give away far more to those in need and missions endeavors.

 

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parties & counseling

It was a marathon Sunday afternoon with lunch with friend, birthday parties, and pre-marital counseling. I’m looking forward to next week as we continue our series as we unfold money management as it pertains to budgeting and managing what God entrusts us with.  You or someone you know in major financial crisis?  Great time to come here what the Bible says about it.





2010 planning retreat

15 11 2009

photo-13These past couple days I was able to sneak away and head down to Tulakogee Retreat Center. This picture was taken outside my window.  I’m so thankful for places like this that let minister’s come for free. It felt good to zero in and focus on what next year will look like. Here’s the breakdown so far in what it is looking like:

After praying and answering the question “What is God wanting Weller’s to hear?  What do we need to focus on in where we are in our journey?”  I’m going to be speaking less to itinerate some and expand our teaching team and give our team more opportunities.  I also took the results from our survey a few weeks back and here’s some of the series will be doing with more stand alone messages sandwiched between:

  • Short series on personal growth & one on our church vision
  • Holy Spirit
  • Short series about “The Dip” and one on “Life Transitions”
  • We’ll spend a lengthy series on “Life Stories”
  • A women only and men only series in which will break up into separate auditoriums
  • A six week series on relationships
  • Sharing our faith
  • Decided to schedule 8 weeks in a row going verse by verse in a specific book of Bible

Here’s a list of goals I have for 2010:

The Well

  • be more strategic on Sunday nights in my relationships
  • rearrange family time to spend 2 evenings a week pouring myself into some other guys
  • officiate 2 weddings
  • initiate a church planting network in Tulsa & here in Claremore
  • work on church policies
  • implement a givings team and decide how we can give more away
  • expand our free garage sale and Servolution Sunday with other church participation
  • planning several retreats for the men/women in our church
  • spend time researching out, praying, and planning two dreams that are still hiding away in my heart

Father

  • Read 15 books on various topics and study the books of Genesis, Daniel, Habbakkuk, and one other for 8 week long series
  • attend Exponential and/or Catalyst Conferences for leadership growth
  • once a quarter do a reconnaisance on Saturday nights so I can go to church and just be
  • take an extended spiritual retreat with Amy

Finances

  • Being more disciplined in our finances so we can give away more
  • Pay off school loan
  • Raise monthly support so I no longer have to get paid by the church

Fitness

  • Participate with some other guys in the New Year’s Day Polar Plunge in Tulsa
  • St John’s Indoor Sprint Tri with a friend
  • Run in Sweetheart 10K with Amy
  • do an adventure race in the fall with some core guys in our church

Family

  • do something with Amy for our anniversary we’ve never done
  • be an assistant coach on Camden’s t-ball team in the Spring
  • get involved in Cub Scouts with some other men in the church with Camden
  • scheduling more nights for Amy to get away

Fun Life Goals

  • get my MDot tattoo
  • skydive with my band of brothers
  • jump off a cliff

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Other than that got to read a book called “Who’s Got Your Back” and took off on some prayer jogs.  One jog led me to a fishing dock where I spent some time meditating on dreams God has placed in me.  A song I was listening to by

Sarah Reeves came out of my IPOD love the words as I took this picture “We humble ourselves and seek your face, pour out your mercy like rain.  Your sons and daughters cry for you, the waves of the waters reach for you.  All of creation reaches up and screams out your name Oh Lord.”

What are some of your thoughts for 2010?  What are you dreaming about?  What are some goals you have?





my 3rd place

10 11 2009

imagesThe memories of staying up late during a summer when my older brother came home from college circles in my memory.  He was a huge “Cheers” fan and planted a seed in me for the show.  Being raised PK’s it probably was a little ironic that we would watch a show portrayed in a bar setting.  I’ve only really stepped in foot in one my whole life….. to be honest?  It was one of the most welcoming environments I’ve ever been and left thinking – wow what The Well could be that loving to a guest?  They didn’t pressure me to buy any alcohol and invited me to eat peanuts and play pool.

I think we all long for that place we can walk through the door and everyone yells out, “Norm!”.  One of those places for me is Java Dave’s.  I love the owner and manager Renee who is one of the most hospitable women in our entire community.  I’ve seen this place over the years with different management and she gets 5 stars!  Almost all the employees are college students from RSU and she attracts the most diverse customers you could ever see.  In front of me is a round table of business men in their 60’s, to my left is a Youth Pastor friend of mine, still further is a sales guy, still yet further friends of Renee that come in almost daily, and soon after classes it will be bombarded with the students.

A few days ago I walked in and 4 people greeted me from all across the place welcoming me with “Hey Ricky!”.  I get to hang out a theater on Sunday mornings, but M-TH I feel like a Pastor of Java Dave’s.  Last week I spent hours counseling with men, praying with others, and getting to know yet more.  I spend about 15 hours a week here with my eyes on the door for anyone that looks like they need a listening ear.  It has become a mission field.  I feel safe here to be completely myself and long for the theater to become more and more like this.  Toby Keith once wrote a song called “I love this bar” read the words:

“We got winners, we got losers.  Chain smokers and boozers.  And we got yuppies, we got bikers.  We got thirsty hitchhikers.  Broken hearted fools and suckers.  And we got hustlers, we got fighters.  Early birds and all nighters.  And the veterans talk about their battle scars.  I love this bar.  It’s my kind of place.  Just walkin through the front door.  Puts a big smile on my face, come as you are.  HMM I love this bar!”

My prayer is that as people go out into the “3rd places”, home away from home they would be themselves and find love and acceptance.  Our first place is our home, second place is our work, the other?  Not sure what it is for you, but I know where mine is and I’m enjoying be a “Norm” wherever almost everyone knows my name.





my week in a nutshell

9 11 2009

Man this week has flown by and has been absolutely crazy, but….. one of those weeks I’d relive in a heart beat.  I truly feel like I lived this past week to the fullest!  Here’s a breakdown as I didn’t get a chance to blog anything.

photo-501 We got to celebrate Camden’s 5th birthday party at Pizza Hutt with friends and family.  We set up a tent in the backyard that same night and got to listen to a train every 15 minutes as it passed through town and the neighbor’s dog bark :)

02 took Camden golfing for the first time & realized I have a new caddie!

03 went on a breakfast date with the most beautiful blonde in the world!

04 made up a nickname song for my boys on the way to school

photo-10 05 got to clean the feet of our community with other Weller’s as we picked up trash after the Will Roger’s Day Parade.  I fulfilled my goal and picked up over 226 cigarette butts.

06 warmed up for my first softball game in over 5 years, only to not be able to play because they couldn’t turn the lights on grr!

07 got to eat breakfast and lunch with two Pastor friends

08 spent about 20 hours encouraging and praying for men in our community and church to go after Christ

09 lost nearly 5lbs as I continue to hook up with my running partner

10 was invited to wed a young couple on New Year’s Day

11 gave $60 to a random college student that I never met that is going on a missions trip

12 same day someone gave me a $200 check at lunch (God is so cool like that!)

13 told someone I met while jogging about the love of Christ

14 prayed over someone dealing with his divorce at Java Dave’s I didn’t know that well

15 met with my band of brothers

16 began drenching myself in the book of Proverbs & finished the book “11″